I know a woman who panics at the thought of being told she has done something wrong. Which sometimes results in her lying to save face. And I’ve realized that the underlying cause of this is fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of not being loved because of mistakes she has made. Fear that is actually hurting her relationships.
I get it. Truly, I do.
Yet, we are told in I John 4:18
There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.
Does this fit my friend’s situation? I believe it does. She fears the punishment of rejection because her love is not perfect and she doesn’t trust those around her to love her enough to not hurt her.
What is the answer to this problem? I think first, recognizing this is what the problem is. And then praying for a more perfect love and meditating on the things we have learned in I Corinthians 13. To love in a way that we are:
- patient and kind
- not jealous – not bragging or being arrogant
- not acting unbecomingly
- not seeking only our own good
- not easily provoked
- not holding on to wrongs suffered
- not rejoicing in unrighteousness – instead rejoicing in the truth
- bearing all things
- believing all things
- hoping all things
- enduring all things
Hmm. Writing out this list, I realize I need to do a little letting go and to work on not allowing things to provoke me.
Lord, please work in me so I can love as you love!
What Makes a Home (Everyday Love #3)
Series: Everyday Love #3
Published by Sandia Sky Press
Publication Date April 18, 2019
Genres: Christian Fiction, Clean Romance
Setting: New Mexico Contemporary
Main Character Ages: 25-34, 18.24
Written for: Adults
An artist who’s never truly known home. A bored computer guy with a fixer-upper. While opposites attract, too much stands in the way. Will they ever figure out what truly makes a home?
Jobie Everett is building a life around teaching art to senior citizens, a boutique job to fund her passion, living green(ish), social media, and wild pursuits that inspire her Muse. When her roommate introduces her to a God who personifies Love like she’s never known, she begins to see the shallowness of her life and searches for greater meaning.
Surely there's more for Caleb March's lackluster life than work and his computer hobbies. Desperate for change, he buys a run-down house near an old friend and her pretty roommate. Ready for more than "just friends," Caleb will first have to reconnect with a God he's been ignoring for too long.
As Caleb and Jobie bond over renovations, a new development forever changes her and pulls the rug out from under him. Jobie needs a godly man who will support and pursue her. Caleb must break himself free of the friend zone and become the man she needs in order to finally give her heart a home.
The Everyday Love Series is a contemporary romance series set in Albuquerque, featuring ordinary people in lifelike stories that inspire, uplift, and share hope. Stories in which a very real God shows Himself in everyday ways to carry His people through any circumstance.
I received a complimentary copy of this book. This gift did not influence my opinion or review.
Also in this series: Whatever Happens Next
Author Jaycee Weaver made Jobie so loveable, even before she got saved. Her casual attitude of doing what feels good is so opposed to the way I believe we should live and yet there was not an emphasis in the story on what she did – it was just enough backstory to explain why she needed salvation. Though I did not like her life choices, I saw her as someone I would like as a friend.
There was so much to enjoy in this story. I can say unequivocably that my favorite part is Jobie’s conversation with her roommate Jenna as she tried to understand more about what the Bible says about love and her naive yet brilliant interpretation and application of I Corinthians 13. And how her salvation journey resulted from her meditations on verses about God’s love and the fruit of the spirit.
Nerdy Caleb was a gem! I loved his awkwardness and insecurity. The way he was convinced he was vanilla. Loafers. Boring. And yet this sweet man had so much to offer. Even Jobie underestimated him – at least at the beginning.
The author says so much with subtle comments and hints. She clearly didn’t feel obligated to make long explanations as she confidently shows you through the story. One example is when Jobie is contrasting two roommates in her mind. While both are Christians, one was very judgmental and the other full of grace.
…[Jobie] could recognize a Bible when she saw one. Her first roommate had left one prominently displayed on a bedside table, though it hadn’t looked nearly as worn as this one.
The rich spiritual truths in this touching story will stay with me for a while as I look at how I can better applying them to my life.
If you enjoy reading Christian fiction with flawed characters who learn the redemptive power of Jesus, you won’t want to pass this one up!